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Most of us come from homes that meet conflict through: Competing, Accommodating, Avoiding, or Compromising.  Collaborative Communication is a powerful communication style that goes beyond the above approaches. ​It focuses on:

• Compassion 

• Cooperation

• Assertiveness 

 

A collaborative mindset gives you new ways to explore difficult issues between yourself and significant others. Differences in relationships are resolved through a deep focus on Win/Wins.

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It emphasizes "co-laboring" or working together to find the underlying needs of both parties.  Collaborative skills help you to become less reactive and more steady in conflicted situations, without giving up your main concerns.

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Using Collaborative Communication supports you to: 

• Express your emotions, even anger, without blame or judgment

• Practice self-empathy and empathy to keep hearts open  

• Deepen your understanding of "Needs" 

• Make genuine requests

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While Collaborative Communication is easy to learn, its special power is moving us away from familiar ways of judging and perceiving. It leads to a more embodied and empathic way of listening and speaking.  

 

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a well-known form of Collaborative Communication. Kaylee received extensive training in NVC, including with founder Marshall Rosenberg. This gave her the inspiration to practice and teach NVC for many years. Kaylee can help you cultivate a collaborative mindset that will serve you in a foundational way. 

Additional disciplines that Kaylee brings to her coaching are: 

• Internal Family Systems 

• Corelight Teachings 

• Attachment Awareness  

 

These systems all emphasize that we are powerful beings learning to manifest the goals and the love we want. They offer techniques and wisdom that will help you: 

• Clear conditioned patterns that may be limiting you 

• Value and safely express emotional vulnerability 

• Move through critical times in your life with more stability 

 

Internal Family Systems (IFS) teaches there are multiple parts in each of us. There are frightened exiled parts, as well as manager parts that want to protect us from pain and shame.  Yet within all parts, there is an inherent ‘wakefulness’, the true Self.  With great respect, IFS practitioners work with parts, allowing a gentle unburdening from extreme emotions they may hold. This opens the space for true Self to become an active leader in our lives. This Self naturally leads with calmness, compassion, curiosity and more.   

 

Corelight Spiritual Warrior Training gave Kaylee another understanding on how to align with true Self.  Corelight training taught her to look closely at the workings of the ego. She has learned and taught Corelight’s dynamic ways for clearing shadow, and for cultivating the neutral witness. This clearing work is seen as an important aspect of becoming connected to true Self. 

 

Attachment Awareness or Theory shows us how our earliest attachment styles impact our closest relationships. By identifying our main attachment style, and knowing more about secure attachment, we begin to form emotional bonds with greater wisdom and ease.   

 

Kaylee looks forward to finding the approaches that work best for you! 

Astrology is gaining more and more recognition as a worthy path for exploring relationship compatibility. Kaylee’s interest in astrology began early, at age 19, when she had her natal chart professionally read, and then wrote about her findings for a psychology class. Kaylee became an avid astrologer, reading charts professionally for a time. Decades later, she is still attuning to people’s relationship potentials through their charts. 

 

Have you ever wondered what your astrology chart reveals about your strengths and weaknesses as a loving partner, or as a friend? 

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Whether or not you have had your chart constructed, Kaylee is adept at helping you identify: 

• Your astrological profile, based on your Sun, Moon and Rising signs. These three power points alone reveal much about your relationship patterns. By becoming acquainted with them you will gain insights into what patterns may bring ease to your relationships, or challenges to be sorted out. 

 

• The signs your “passion planets”, Mars and Venus, fall in. Knowing the signs these planets are in gives you valuable information about how you naturally attract others to you (Venus), and how you most successfully pursue others you’re interested in (Mars). 

 

Kaylee feels strongly that people deserve an abundance of tools for building fulfilling relationships. Especially within the LGBTQ+ community, where so many have experienced family and societal scorn, there is an even greater need to support the growth of healing, loving relationships. 

 

Kaylee’s awareness of her own chart, which notably revealed challenging relationship aspects, at times discouraged her. And yet by accessing the strengths in her chart, she was able to cultivate high-level communication skills and self-love. Further, through working with a coach, she clarified her heart's desire for a deep, healthy and loving relationship. With these approaches, Kaylee manifested a beautiful, evolving relationship with a most compatible partner. 

 

Even if you are skeptical about astrology, you may find yourself meeting someone you like and respect who asks you about your astrology chart. Becoming familiar with your chart may help a potential friend or lover see your open-mindedness, and it may even open windows for you into your own soul.